To be a father or mother it takes very little, the child is in charge of Paris and the stork brings it to you, or in the modern version, dad's love, the seed, mom's belly grows ... well, you know. Now, once the child is born, the day to day comes, which can be very hard and exhausting, and that is what many couples do not know and what many who are already parents have forgotten.
There are few women who see at home with their baby a few days crying because they see that the baby hardly leaves any time for anything and that everything begins to accumulate, becoming the mountain more and more and bigger. As many people are very willing to spend time with the recent mother, how they want to meet the baby and accompany them in those first moments and how many women are waiting for a baby and do not see how to explain to others what they may need I leave you with fifteen tips to help a recent mother.
The compilation was made by Sarai Llamas, of whom we have already spoken at some time in the weekly reviews of dads and moms blogs. Check them out and we will comment a bit below:
He calling before is vital, important to more not to be able, and more vital still is to know to fit a "no, not now". How many mothers have found themselves in the situation of having their parents or in-laws in the portal who have decided that at that moment they want to see their grandson without knowing how to tell them that "right now I was going to take a while to rest, taking advantage that your grandson just closed his eyes. "
Regarding household chores, the same, especially if you have confidence. "Sit down, I already scrub your dishes", "No, I insist, I iron my clothes, I love doing it, it relaxes me that you don't see", "Let me pass you the duster and while you tell me how you are doing", These are phrases that any recent mother will surely appreciate. You don't have to do the whole house, but all help is good.
If the child falls asleep, well yes, the most prudent thing is that you go so the mother can rest, since normally those are the only moments you can do it.
Do not take famous magazines with which you are tempted to compare yourself and do not tell stories of childbirth and maternity care that may concern you, visits have to be to have a good time, not so that the mother can not sleep later. You can talk about her, how she feels, reassure her a bit by relativizing the look of her house, because the most important thing at that moment is the baby and herself, and give more than valid advice: everyone will say, but the important thing is what she thinks and above all what she feels she has to do with her son (considering dad, of course).
If he also tells you that he has a crazy desire to take a shower, you would not smile giving him the reason, stay with the baby for a little while, better if he is already eaten and changed, and allow him to disconnect for a while in the sink. It seems a lie, but for many women the sink becomes an escape and relaxation valve that ends up working wonders (for lack of bread ...).
And to finish and not lengthen, among the advice that remains to be commented, I am left with that of the photos. Take a camera with you and take pictures of the mother and the baby. Then you pass them by mobile or by mail. Sometimes it is the only way for mom to go out in the photos with her baby, because she will make thousands and will never realize that in the future, when she looks at them, it will seem that she had no mother.
By the way, so it doesn't seem like we're talking about a single mother, these tips also works for dad, which has even more obligation to ensure the welfare of the mother and make herself available for whatever it takes. She is on leave to take care of the baby, not to leave the house like the jets of gold and put a hot plate on the table minutes before you arrive. It is very likely that the food is made on most occasions, but it is also likely that one day you will arrive and find the house the same or worse than when you went to work. It is the law of life, assume it and attach.
